Can the police be used as a harassment device?
Can the police be used to harass someone? That is the question I find myself asking. I received a call from a detective this morning telling me that my lovely EH reported that I violated his protection order. When I asked how, the poor detective was very unclear as to how the examples given actually violated the order.
Apparently, me asking my EH for 2 hours of his custody time for my DD2 to attend DD1’s birthday party (3 weeks ago) constituted a violation. I also apparently had a violation when I notified EH that I would be unable to pay for DD2’s after school program. Well at least that’s what the detective told me.
Now my attorney’s have told me that neither of these constitute a violation of the protection order. However, EH was able to get it reported. Now the detective is closing the report because there is no violation, but the problem is, there are multiple ones of these. Now if you pull the PD record, it looks like I’m constantly violating his protection order, even though all of them have been closed because there actually was no violation.
To top it off, he also told DD2 that he had to call the police on me because I was doing bad things. This coupled with the 2 police visits last week for supposed custody violations and I’m beginning to wonder if the police can be used to harass someone.
So I’m forced to conclude that EH is on a revenge kick. He’s not the biological father of DD2, she’s a sperm donor baby. He’s really never been interested in being a father, and clearly is still not interested except where he can inconvenience me.
I just want to go on with my life. I want my possessions back. I want my daughter safe.
What concerns me is that my daughter’s play is now indicating that she may be being abused. I’ve notified her counselors, I’ve notified the advocate. I haven’t notified DCS because they didn’t do anything before and honestly, I don’t even know what else I can tell them. They’re not going to do anything now, frankly I’m very discouraged about this. About the fact that I can’t keep my daughter safe. All the people who are supposed to keep her safe are determined to label me as a troublemaker and someone who is not to be believed. The cops believe me. I think the caseworkers believe me, but unfortunately, the people who are the ones making the decisions are completely taken in by EH’s poor me story and are giving EH everything he wants.
I’m just hoping and praying that the judge and courts and everyone involved are playing a long strategy game. Because EH is providing material that I hope can be used to show he is not a fit father. I just hope it does some good ultimately because right now, I just feel very discouraged.
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