
Christmas Day Shenanigans
So ExH decided Christmas Day was the day I could move my things. So he pulled several boxes out of the garage onto the driveway. As I started loading boxes, he decided to call the police because I was stealing HIS things. He kept telling me that the judge gave him all of these things and that they were his and I was stealing them.
Now, he had the dispatcher on speaker phone in front of both my kids and all the people that I had there to help me move. He told the dispatcher I was getting physical (I was not) and that I was unstable. I finally had had enough of his lying and yelled to the dispatcher from 10 feet away that he had told me in writing that I could pick the things up and that I was moving them from the driveway. The dispatcher acknowledged that by asking him if he was on speakerphone. She told him to go inside (which he didn’t).
So we waited for the police.
I’m pretty sure that he set the entire thing up so that he could have me arrested for DV and for theft.
The police told him this was a civil issue and that they would do nothing. There was no DV issue. Now he’s 600 pounds and I’m less than 200. He was clearly irrational and acting in a way that the police seemed concerned. Given that I remained 15-20 feet away from him and was standing there calmly waiting really gave them nothing.
They told my parents that nothing was going to happen. If ExH had issues he needed to go through the court.
Now this whole thing started because I found a box of his family pictures in my things. The judge was very clear. What I have is mine and what he has is his. He wants the rules to be applied differently to him.
When I found the box, I offered a trade, in good faith. I want mine and my daughter’s things back. I have specific things I want back. I thought that was what was happening on Christmas Day. Especially when he told me he neeeded time to pack them up. Now he told the judge in Jan 2023 that he had everything packed up and all I had to do was arrange to get them. Clearly that is not the case since he continues to refuse to allow it.
I told him that when I received the entirety of my things then I’d give him back his. He accused me of blackmail. He told me that I was getting nothing else because I needed to read the orders and it was all his. Yet he clearly thinks that I’ve stolen his stuff and that those orders don’t apply equally to him.
I suspect one of the reasons he got so unhinged when I told him I wanted the entirety of my things back was because he has gotten rid of the majority of my things.
He knew I wanted them. He’s known I wanted them for 44 months. He’s had a list of things I wanted back sent to him multiple times over the past 44 months. Yet despite this, he chose to not call me to come pick them up. He chose to dispose of them.
At the end of the day this shows that he is cruel, willing to steal from a child for the sake of his pride, he is unkind and all around not a very nice person. It reflects poorly on his parents who raised such an awful human being.
Now my dilemma is what do I do with his pictures? I don’t want or need them. I would have preferred to give them back. However, that is likely not an option at this point.
I will likely send a message to my exFIL and see what comes of it if anything. Although I haven’t decided totally to do that.
I think for now I’ll think about sending a message and just wait and see. I still have hope that he has some of my things left. But that hope is dwindling the longer that time goes.
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