Responding and communicating

Communication is an interesting thing. I’ve had cause to ask what exactly is it this past week. I sent my ex a message that said the online custody calendar we use was not in compliance with the orders we received from the court. He sent me back a message telling me I was making unilateral changes to the schedule that he didn’t agree with and that I had to leave it the way it was, among other accusations.

So not sure what prompted the irrational diatribe I received in response to a comment about the schedule being out of compliance with the orders.

I corrected the schedule online to be inline with the orders, because the orders are the authority and oh boy did that open a hornet’s nest. I got all kinds of response back from him. Now I tried to have a conversation with him. I tried to discuss it with him. He waited three days before responding (he read the message I sent, he just didn’t respond).

He now is trying to bully me into violating the orders. Not sure how to deal with this honestly. He clearly is trying to change the orders via the app which isn’t appropriate. Yet he has not demonstrated an ability to respond with reasonableness and rationality, I’m not really sure why I would expect different.

This is all happening in conjunction with other things. He took DD2 out of state on an airplane and refuses to tell me where she went, saying that it’s not in the orders therefore he doesn’t have to disclose it.

He blocked all communication with my daughter. In the middle of a conversation between her and her sister it cut off abruptly and now for 6 days I have not heard from my daughter in any way.

I have no idea where she is. I have no idea who she is with. I have no idea if she is ok. I don’t even know where she is. It’s a helpless feeling. My daughter is somewhere in the world and I have no idea where she is or even if I’ll get her back.