Parenting schedule misadventure
Had some interesting developments that began about 10 days ago. I notified my EH that there would be a change in the parenting schedule due to spring break. Not a big deal, or so I thought. I should have known better.
Spring Break for the children began the week of 3/7. That was his time with D2. Well according to the court orders, the holiday and his custody time would end when school resumed the following Monday.
My EH decided that he didn’t want the normal parenting schedule, which would be starting on week 1. He wanted it to resume on week 2, which would give him 3 more days with D2. I told him that the way the orders were written stated the holiday ended. We’d been switching time after holidays since this whole fiasco began.
The court has us on a 2 week schedule with 2-2-3 days. Which really sucks, but is the best for D2 because it means that I can make sure she stays safe. I continue to believe that she is not safe with EH.
Well, EH never responded to my requests for discussion, which is in direct violation of the court order, which orders us to cooperate and work together. Yeah right. Like that happens. He dictates and expects me to accommodate.
Long story short, I sent an email confirming that I would pick D2 up from school because custody transfer was 8am on Monday when school resumed. He tells me that no it isn’t we would be transferring custody on Wednesday and then refused to discuss it any further.
I proposed a compromise since it seemed as if he really needed to keep D2 until Wednesday. You know, like a conversation an adult would have. Yep, didn’t happen. He tells me he rejects my changes and that he was right. I told him this was the way the schedule had turned out, I was just proposing a compromise and since he didn’t want that compromise and didn’t counter it, again I told him I’d pick D2 up after school. Again no response.
So I picked D2 up after her 1/2 day school instead of letting her go to her afterschool program.
And when he went to pick her up at the normal time, because apparently he didn’t believe me when I said I was picking her up. And when she wasn’t there, he waited over an hour before emailing me asking me where she was, because apparently he needed to call the police first.
I had a police officer at my door the same time he emailed me verifying that I, in fact, had picked D2 up from school. The police officer was very nice though. I had a wonderful conversation with him.
My EH was very kind in sending the officer the string of emails about me trying to compromise and him refusing, as well as the calendar that clearly showed my parenting time. So I’m really not certain what he thought he was accomplishing, except inconveniencing me. But that is the way it’s been.
He is a bully and continues to try and assert his control over every aspect of this entire process. Yet I know he will refuse to take responsibility for any of his actions. It will end up being my fault, I’m sure of it. But in the meantime I have D2 right now and while she’s unusually clingy and won’t let me out of her site, it’s really nice to be able to have time with her. I’ve never gone so long without seeing her before. I just wish I could trust EH to care for her.
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