What am I writing and Why

2022 is a year of beginnings.  I’m starting this blog in an attempt to digest and understand the adventures my life has taken in the last year.  Besides my divorce, I’ve had health challenges, I have fear for my daughter’s safety and I’m trying to navigate co-parenting with someone who is more interested in obstructing every attempt I have at doing that co-parenting.

These posts will be, for the most part in the form of letters.  They are letters that I have sent to the court appointed advocate.

The advocate has demonstrated that she is firmly on the side of my ex and thinks that I am accusing my ex of rape, emotional abuse and other heinous things simply because I have not “gotten my way” thus far in the divorce.  She has clearly aligned herself with my ex for whatever reason.  

Over the past few months, I have attempted to tell my story to her, to everyone who will listen.

I have reported these events to appropriate law enforcement, they can do nothing because there is not enough evidence and my ex refuses to be interviewed.

I have reported these events to child protective services, they can do nothing because there is no direct evidence.

I have reported these events to the advocate who chooses to ignore my version of events in favor of whatever my ex is telling her.

I have reported these events to my daughter’s clinical providers who simply shake their heads and do nothing, not because they don’t want to but because these events don’t fall within their scope.

So I’m telling my daughter’s story here.  Some day, maybe someone who can do something to intervene will read this and be able to help her.  

Until then, I do my best to make sure she is safe, loved and the damage my ex is doing to her mitigated to the best of my ability.

Abbreviations I use:

• EH for my ex-husband
• D1 for my older daughter
• D2 for my youngest daughter
• Elsewhere I’ll use first initials just to maintain anonymity