TRIGGER WARNING: Systems being used as a mechanism for abuse
My ExH. He likes control. He wants to punish me, or at least that’s how it appears as a recipient of his games. Unfortunately, he was able to convince a judge to grant him a protection order (or a restraining order) against me in retaliation for me reporting to the police that he raped
a demonstration of control
So I received a copy of a motion filed with the court by my EH. In it he, or rather his attorney, tells the court that I inappropriately removed my DD2 from school on 2 days in March. He also alleges that I refused to sign paperwork related to my daughter’s health insurance. Both of
Can the police be used as a harassment device?
Can the police be used to harass someone? That is the question I find myself asking. I received a call from a detective this morning telling me that my lovely EH reported that I violated his protection order. When I asked how, the poor detective was very unclear as to how the examples given actually
Count the ways to avoid financial obligations
Here’s the latest in this misadventure. EH is doing everything possible to not fulfill the financial obligations as listed in the temporary orders (child support and a loan payment). The court was very clear, he needed to pay both these items, and the court described how those were to be paid. There is no ambiguity.
Parenting schedule misadventure
Had some interesting developments that began about 10 days ago. I notified my EH that there would be a change in the parenting schedule due to spring break. Not a big deal, or so I thought. I should have known better. Spring Break for the children began the week of 3/7. That was his time
tired and helpless
I’m so tired. Tired of the games EH is playing, tired of holding my 10 year old, I as she sobs because EH is refusing to allow her baby sister to come for her birthday or contact her at all, tired of not having my things, just tired of this whole thing. I’m convinced that
Resources
These are the resources that are helping define my journey. They are publicly available and will hopefully help others with their own journeys. This article has helped define some of my health struggles. Finally having some answers helps, now just onward to hopefully fixing those issues. Iron deficiency and why it matters
Co-parenting and cooperation mis adventures Feb
It’s me again talking about EH and his unwillingness to co-parent. Two events have occurred in the last month that will illustrate this pattern. If you don’t want to read through the events, I’ve summarized them with bullet points here: These two events listed after this summary continue EH’s pattern of control to the detriment of D2’s well-being. ·
Gaming addictions and child safety
Here is yet another example of how EH refuses to co-parent with me. It took me a little while to process the emotions that these events generated in me last week. I wanted to be as rational as I could be when I sent this. Every once in a while the school will have a no-school
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